How to enjoy a shitty thing

If there was only one thing in the world, you’d see it for what it is.

Imagine you live in a world where there is nothing, and then, right in the center of that nothingness, one thing appears. You’ll probably just look at it and think: “Oh, that’s interesting. I like how that thing looks.” But as soon as two of those things appear, you wouldn’t be able to like them both: you’d start liking one of the things better than the other. Your thoughts would go something like this:

“These are two things“, then, “I think the right thing is better than the left one,” and then “the left thing sucks.”

Now imagine these things were your friends. Or your seat. Or your food. Or your job. Or your husband. Comparison will make you question if you’re happy with them all the time. And the bad news is: usually the best thing won’t be the one you have.

Now this happens everywhere and with everything we experience because there are infinite things in the world. It’s OK to have a preference. But it’s worth remembering that if we stop liking something, it’s not because it’s not good anymore, it’s simply because we stopped looking at it with our full attention.

Forget it.

What if the things you remember aren’t real?

When you feel the sunset kissing the outline of your face you’re not remembering: you’re experiencing, feeling the warmth awakening your heart. Any thought hoping for or remembering this moment isn’t real. It’s only your imagination, your contaminated interpretation of now. Think about this – but only for a brief second – because as soon as you do, the moment is gone. Reality is right here: in the place where there are no thoughts, no words, no hopes, no knowledge of what happened to you or predictions of what will. You are everything right now. The most important person in your life. Know that. Feel that. Now forget that.

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The secret to great sex

“To understand excitement, we have to go back to the early days, when we were deeply in the mood (for sex) pretty much every hour. What was exciting was our ability to touch, hold, stroke – in short, possess someone who wasn’t entirely within our reach: someone who was independent and free to walk away from us – and yet miraculously was choosing not to do so.

Sexiness = Possession + Freedom.”

– The School of Life, http://www.thebookoflife.org/why-we-go-off-sex/

Different forms of control.

Free will is nothing but the choice to live against life itself. If we live in accordance to the divinity of life, there are no choices to be made. There is only truth, emerging more clearly every step of the way. Therefore, we can say that those who control life are themselves the controlled. But those who let life dictate their choices are also the controlled. Freedom is an ongoing conversation with life. Try not to shout at it, or to withdrawal from it.