…and no one seems to be listening.
So you make the best pancakes on earth, you’re humble and you always give loose change to the homeless. You’re good at your job and you always smile at strangers. You dress well and recycle and also have the most beautiful nose that Instagram has ever seen. You’re not a slacker. You had a tough life but you overcame it with grace. Today, you are stable and loved and you’ve managed to save up money for something big. Finally, you are all of that.
But all of that doesn’t even get close to everything that you are.
Inside, you are a being so big that no words can describe. No goals can achieve. No failure can break. Inside, you are something so powerful that no one could ever like or dislike. Not even you.
We build better versions of ourselves on the outside to create more and better bridges to communicate with each other. It’s all about acknowledging that we are all here, together. Now we can acknowledge moments together with an instant message, with a snap, with an emoji, with a like.But there is a form of communication that is bigger than any bridge: presence.
If you pay attention, you’ll feel it too. And then you’ll start seeing it everywhere. You’ll see it in me. You’ll see in cars, in coffee and in tea. You’ll see it in others. Suddenly, they’ll be there. On the tube, on the street, in the elevator. They’ll be there. And they’ll be celebrating that with you. Because they know they are there, you know you are here too. And no comment, like or emoji could ever surpass that. Presence is love that comes from the only place where information can not be misinterpreted. It comes from the heart. From one to the other. From all that we are, independently from what we choose to do on the outside.
Amongst all my friends, I’m probably considered to be the one that talks the most. I am excited about life, about people, about change. But strangely, I don’t consider myself a talkative person. Because I believe than when you do something with a purpose, you can never do too much of it. With the right crowd, everything falls into place. The ironic thing is, the thing people tease you about is usually your best asset.
You can be romantic, individualist, naturalist, geek. No matter what you are and how you tend to be, you are doing it right. Are you a bad dancer? Only you can get people to smile in the dark. Are you shy? You can melt anyone with your eyes. Are you picky? You can improve everything you touch. I am talkative. And I am courageous enough to do everything that I say.
That’s why I had my last cigarette on the 22nd of September. Because I prefer to talk about freedom and change and the two don’t go well together. Talking too much took me to stop smoking. hmm.. I think I’ll do more of it and see where it takes me. 🙂
O amor é sexy
Move a vida graciosamente
Pulsando do fundo mais fundo que a terra vê
Dançando mais alto que a imaginação que te leva.
O amor é luz
Vai até onde a gente deixar
Sugando a incerteza escura da minha calma
Beijando as cores da paisagem da tua alma.
O amor é teimoso
Só aparece para quem já tem
Talvez tenha um pedacinho guardado
Mas somente se o coração já for usado.
O amor não se contém
Mas só você pode saber
Não adianta dizer o que não pode ser dito
Só se der para fazer um destino bonito.
O amor é agora
Ontem ele morreu
E amanhã ele ainda não aconteceu.
Por isso só me resta amar o único hoje que sou eu.
I’m reading about Osho, a 20th century master of knowledge. He’s talking about the power of awareness by doing things slow and consciously.
He clearly isn’t a bus driver in London.
I get was he is saying but the world doesn’t work like that. If he were a bus driver in London Osho wouldn’t be Osho. He’d just be someone aspiring to be like Osho.
That’s who I am right now. Except for the driver part. If I follow Osho’s advice to be 100% conscious, I can’t be doing what I’m doing. I’ll have change my lifestyle. No drugs, no hats, no triple chocolate cookies. Focusing on what’s needed, working towards a society that benefits all. But how can I change the world by setting myself apart from it?
By leaving an unconscious society to start a conscious lifestyle, I’ll also leave behind the people that need Osho’s advice the most. My colleagues, my friends, a stranger in the street, they can all learn something using me as the bridge. But if I leave, they’ll have one less chance of seeing beyond their own island.
That’s how I compare 3 states of being found in everyone that surrounds us: Rivers, Margins and the Bridges.
The River represent those who go with the flow. Free and fresh. lose and unpredictable. I’ve met a few people like this in my life, and I always admired them for not giving a fuck. They might wake up one day and regret a life of nothing, but then again, wouldn’t it be good if we could all strip from our mental polish and enjoy every single day for the first time?
The Margin represents those who work for themselves, only communicating with people that live by the same values and ideas. They get things going, and build essential structures that help our society thrive through their eyes. Undisturbed, they work amazingly well. The downside of Margins is that they get distressed when questioned. A designated Margin can’t physically communicate with another Margin because they’re too far apart from each other. Religion, Politics, and well… Parents, are examples of this.
The Bridge. A man made structure that solves a man made problem – Communication. Unlike Margins, Bridge people adapt. Their ideas don’t proliferate far as the Margins’ do, but the Margins’ ideas will eventually come to an end without bridges. It’s the yin & yang of human evolution. Bridges see the potential in a correlated world by connecting ideas, cultures, politics, beliefs – they make margins understand each other. They go outside their bubble of comfort to make the world go further. Those are the cases of Ghandi, Martin Luther King and that random person that helped you carry that heavy luggage on the tube. Creators of frequencies that allow us to let go and see through what really matters – beyond our differences. Beyond our egos.
I find Bridge people the most appealing. But I don’t think I’m one yet. First, I must create solid grounds for others to trust they can find their way through me. Sounds very philosophical, but that’s just how bridges are made.