Are you good company?

Start saying the things you truly think out loud, outside your own mind. It’s the only way you’ll ever hear what you really think, and decide which thoughts you’ll keep and which ones you won’t. Because your thoughts are like guests at your own party, whispering in your ear. They sit the closest to you and they never leave your side. They tell you everything. They judge everything. They gossip about other people at the party. They question the food and criticise your attitude. They question themselves and wonder if they aren’t a bit crazy. Or maybe they’re just tired. Then they get distracted with dessert. Then they stress because someone didn’t say thank you. But no one else hears them. Just you. They’re whispering in your ear all day long. And you have to sit there and listen to this.

Seriously, if no one else could see them, would you invite these weirdos to come to your house everyday? That’s what you do with your thoughts. You invite them in. You’re probably used to them already. To their likes and dislikes, their preconceived opinions, their snobbism. The good news is that they are your own creation, just like your own thoughts.

Start being good company to yourself today. If you’re wondering if your thoughts are good or not, say them out loud. Enough of letting them whisper in your ear. People only whisper when they should be quiet. Or when they’re creepy. And people only speak loud when they’re proud of what they have to say. So, start creating the guests with whom you’d love to sit around all day. That option is not only real, but is also the beginning of happiness. Because when you let go of annoying guests, you realise how beautiful your party really is.

The Onion Pain Guide

The Onion Pain Guide by notjustsomeonelse to your happiness

The Onion pain guide shows why it is important to fight and deconstruct every bad thing that happens to you in life – while it is still happening to you.

Because pain happens. It hits you like a rock. And if you’re aware, it simply bounces back. It’s meaningless.

But pain distracts us. It makes us too busy on the surface while it penetrates our protective layers. Over the years, old pain crawls into your core and nests there, making you insecure, demotivated or even depressed. One day, it may become almost impossible to separate one from the other.

That’s why it’s important to resolve problems when they happen to you instead of resuming your actions to talking about the subject and forgetting about it. Your subconscious will always remember. So protect your vital happiness. Not from the outside, but from the inside. Repel pain on the surface, by noticing it when it hits you.

Then, smile. Smile because your light is safe and sound. Smile because deep down, you always knew you were made to shine bright.

Should I stay or should I go

I’m reading about Osho, a 20th century master of knowledge. He’s talking about the power of awareness by doing things slow and consciously.

He clearly isn’t a bus driver in London.

I get was he is saying but the world doesn’t work like that. If he were a bus driver in London Osho wouldn’t be Osho. He’d just be someone aspiring to be like Osho.

That’s who I am right now. Except for the driver part. If I follow Osho’s advice to be 100% conscious, I can’t be doing what I’m doing. I’ll have change my lifestyle. No drugs, no hats, no triple chocolate cookies. Focusing on what’s needed, working towards a society that benefits all. But how can I change the world by setting myself apart from it?

By leaving an unconscious society to start a conscious lifestyle, I’ll also leave behind the people that need Osho’s advice the most. My colleagues, my friends, a stranger in the street, they can all learn something using me as the bridge. But if I leave, they’ll have one less chance of seeing beyond their own island.

That’s how I compare 3 states of being found in everyone that surrounds us: Rivers, Margins and the Bridges.

The River represent those who go with the flow. Free and fresh. lose and unpredictable. I’ve met a few people like this in my life, and I always admired them for not giving a fuck. They might wake up one day and regret a life of nothing, but then again, wouldn’t it be good if we could all strip from our mental polish and enjoy every single day for the first time?

The Margin represents those who work for themselves, only communicating with people that live by the same values and ideas. They get things going, and build essential structures that help our society thrive through their eyes. Undisturbed, they work amazingly well. The downside of Margins is that they get distressed when questioned. A designated Margin can’t physically communicate with another Margin because they’re too far apart from each other. Religion, Politics, and well… Parents, are examples of this.

The Bridge. A man made structure that solves a man made problem – Communication. Unlike Margins, Bridge people adapt. Their ideas don’t proliferate far as the Margins’ do, but the Margins’ ideas will eventually come to an end without bridges. It’s the yin & yang of human evolution. Bridges see the potential in a correlated world by connecting  ideas, cultures, politics, beliefs – they make margins understand each other. They go outside their bubble of comfort to make the world go further. Those are the cases of Ghandi, Martin Luther King and that random person that helped you carry that heavy luggage on the tube. Creators of frequencies that allow us to let go and see through what really matters – beyond our differences. Beyond our egos.

I find Bridge people the most appealing. But I don’t think I’m one yet. First, I must create solid grounds for others to trust they can find their way through me. Sounds very philosophical, but that’s just how bridges are made.