Se gostares de coisas mais ou menos vais acabar por ser uma pessoa mais ou menos.
Start saying the things you truly think out loud, outside your own mind. It’s the only way you’ll ever hear what you really think, and decide which thoughts you’ll keep and which ones you won’t. Because your thoughts are like guests at your own party, whispering in your ear. They sit the closest to you and they never leave your side. They tell you everything. They judge everything. They gossip about other people at the party. They question the food and criticise your attitude. They question themselves and wonder if they aren’t a bit crazy. Or maybe they’re just tired. Then they get distracted with dessert. Then they stress because someone didn’t say thank you. But no one else hears them. Just you. They’re whispering in your ear all day long. And you have to sit there and listen to this.
Seriously, if no one else could see them, would you invite these weirdos to come to your house everyday? That’s what you do with your thoughts. You invite them in. You’re probably used to them already. To their likes and dislikes, their preconceived opinions, their snobbism. The good news is that they are your own creation, just like your own thoughts.
Start being good company to yourself today. If you’re wondering if your thoughts are good or not, say them out loud. Enough of letting them whisper in your ear. People only whisper when they should be quiet. Or when they’re creepy. And people only speak loud when they’re proud of what they have to say. So, start creating the guests with whom you’d love to sit around all day. That option is not only real, but is also the beginning of happiness. Because when you let go of annoying guests, you realise how beautiful your party really is.
The Onion pain guide shows why it is important to fight and deconstruct every bad thing that happens to you in life – while it is still happening to you.
Because pain happens. It hits you like a rock. And if you’re aware, it simply bounces back. It’s meaningless.
But pain distracts us. It makes us too busy on the surface while it penetrates our protective layers. Over the years, old pain crawls into your core and nests there, making you insecure, demotivated or even depressed. One day, it may become almost impossible to separate one from the other.
That’s why it’s important to resolve problems when they happen to you instead of resuming your actions to talking about the subject and forgetting about it. Your subconscious will always remember. So protect your vital happiness. Not from the outside, but from the inside. Repel pain on the surface, by noticing it when it hits you.
Then, smile. Smile because your light is safe and sound. Smile because deep down, you always knew you were made to shine bright.