Are you good company?

Start saying the things you truly think out loud, outside your own mind. It’s the only way you’ll ever hear what you really think, and decide which thoughts you’ll keep and which ones you won’t. Because your thoughts are like guests at your own party, whispering in your ear. They sit the closest to you and they never leave your side. They tell you everything. They judge everything. They gossip about other people at the party. They question the food and criticise your attitude. They question themselves and wonder if they aren’t a bit crazy. Or maybe they’re just tired. Then they get distracted with dessert. Then they stress because someone didn’t say thank you. But no one else hears them. Just you. They’re whispering in your ear all day long. And you have to sit there and listen to this.

Seriously, if no one else could see them, would you invite these weirdos to come to your house everyday? That’s what you do with your thoughts. You invite them in. You’re probably used to them already. To their likes and dislikes, their preconceived opinions, their snobbism. The good news is that they are your own creation, just like your own thoughts.

Start being good company to yourself today. If you’re wondering if your thoughts are good or not, say them out loud. Enough of letting them whisper in your ear. People only whisper when they should be quiet. Or when they’re creepy. And people only speak loud when they’re proud of what they have to say. So, start creating the guests with whom you’d love to sit around all day. That option is not only real, but is also the beginning of happiness. Because when you let go of annoying guests, you realise how beautiful your party really is.

Progress is a waste of time

“Either we go together or not at all.” – Mr Krishnamurti

We are confined to the little box of knowledge that is accepted by the western world.

Whatever is taught outside our boundaries doesn’t exist at all. That is the case of peaceful events between cultures, beautiful acts of kindness or societies without fear and hate, living happily with nature. For us, those people don’t exist. Because they are not featured in the news. And even if we’d assume they do, we couldn’t imagine there could be more than a few scattered hermits living outside our bubble. Because until events happen inside our culture, things don’t exist – and therefore, we can’t call it progress. 

Developed societies are the minority but it doesn’t seem like that. To see it, turn off your TV, stop hearing the radio and step outside your comfort zone (tip: Festivals like Boom seem to be great examples of that).

Our ‘developed’ society calls progress to anything we haven’t thought of before. We love the idea of progress more than we love progress. If this isn’t true, why do we work separately from other cultures that have broader and better answers than us for certain problems we have? This applies to medicine, psychology, philosophy and even science.

Imagine we’re all living in a forest. Between our tribe and the other tribe, there’s a river. Our neighbours discover how to build a Canoe in 8200 A.C. Without knowing this, we spend 100 years dreaming about crossing the river. Finally we make it. A dream turns into an idea and an idea turns into a Canoe. What an achievement! We give it a name. Awards are given. Canoes are the new trend.

But my question is: Couldn’t we simply have asked for advice to the neighbours crossing the river, instead of putting effort building something from scratch that already existed? Unfortunately in our society our neighbour’s progress is not considered real progress. For us, progress can only start in our tribe. We sometimes fail to see the whole picture because of that. When ‘progress’ is made, after a more sustainable result has been achieved by another culture, it’s not called progress. It’s called a waste of time.

Let’s include the whole world in in the meaning of progress. We don’t live under different skies! All we need to do is listen.

P.S – A little example of our tribe crossing knowledge with other tribes and failing to listen:

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Nai Soi Tribe (Long Neck Tribe)

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Victoria Secret Show

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