Let yourself be silently drawn by the strange pull of what you really love. It will not lead you astray. – Rumi
By creating drama, you’re finding a temporary purpose for your life. Suddenly, you have someone to listen to, changes to make, or simply put, problems to solve. But the drama will not last, and soon you’ll find yourself without a purpose again. So you create more drama. In your head, or out of it. I’m the kind of person that creates in both.
After drama happens, you feel strangely better – everything is in place, and now everything makes sense. But not for long.
Finding purpose in life is a duty we should all engage in. Because otherwise, we’re only going to create problems that are really not the battles we want to fight for. Things will not get out of control if you let go of control. Surprisingly enough, your life will start flowing more easily and people will start respecting you for who you are and helping you find your real purpose. There is no need to hold on for dear life.
Let go of drama. Problems do not define you. What defines you is hidden beneath them.
I’m reading about Osho, a 20th century master of knowledge. He’s talking about the power of awareness by doing things slow and consciously.
He clearly isn’t a bus driver in London.
I get was he is saying but the world doesn’t work like that. If he were a bus driver in London Osho wouldn’t be Osho. He’d just be someone aspiring to be like Osho.
That’s who I am right now. Except for the driver part. If I follow Osho’s advice to be 100% conscious, I can’t be doing what I’m doing. I’ll have change my lifestyle. No drugs, no hats, no triple chocolate cookies. Focusing on what’s needed, working towards a society that benefits all. But how can I change the world by setting myself apart from it?
By leaving an unconscious society to start a conscious lifestyle, I’ll also leave behind the people that need Osho’s advice the most. My colleagues, my friends, a stranger in the street, they can all learn something using me as the bridge. But if I leave, they’ll have one less chance of seeing beyond their own island.
That’s how I compare 3 states of being found in everyone that surrounds us: Rivers, Margins and the Bridges.
The River represent those who go with the flow. Free and fresh. lose and unpredictable. I’ve met a few people like this in my life, and I always admired them for not giving a fuck. They might wake up one day and regret a life of nothing, but then again, wouldn’t it be good if we could all strip from our mental polish and enjoy every single day for the first time?
The Margin represents those who work for themselves, only communicating with people that live by the same values and ideas. They get things going, and build essential structures that help our society thrive through their eyes. Undisturbed, they work amazingly well. The downside of Margins is that they get distressed when questioned. A designated Margin can’t physically communicate with another Margin because they’re too far apart from each other. Religion, Politics, and well… Parents, are examples of this.
The Bridge. A man made structure that solves a man made problem – Communication. Unlike Margins, Bridge people adapt. Their ideas don’t proliferate far as the Margins’ do, but the Margins’ ideas will eventually come to an end without bridges. It’s the yin & yang of human evolution. Bridges see the potential in a correlated world by connecting ideas, cultures, politics, beliefs – they make margins understand each other. They go outside their bubble of comfort to make the world go further. Those are the cases of Ghandi, Martin Luther King and that random person that helped you carry that heavy luggage on the tube. Creators of frequencies that allow us to let go and see through what really matters – beyond our differences. Beyond our egos.
I find Bridge people the most appealing. But I don’t think I’m one yet. First, I must create solid grounds for others to trust they can find their way through me. Sounds very philosophical, but that’s just how bridges are made.
The only things worth learning are those which you apply in your life.
Why love, when you betray?
Why be a doctor, when you spend your weekends drunk?
Why work in advertising, when you can’t sell yourself?
Why apply a night cream, when you don’t have enough sleep?
Why go to the gym, when you’re going there by car?
Why laugh with your co-workers, when you’re not talking to your best friend?
Why miss someone, when you don’t make an effort to see them?
Why have a shrink, when you don’t want to change?
Why rush growing up, when you’ll end up wishing you were young?
Why do you do things with no truth?
If you don’t like to apply what you’re learning in your life, learn something else. Build a different life. A life you really enjoy. We’re all depending on your decision. That’s how we build a world full of pro’s.
Everyone knows what they are here to do. But it’s hard to organise our thoughts if we don’t sit down to think about it. I think it’s because we are never bored.
In a world of constant distractions, it’s important to stop and just be bored. We’re enticed to be different, to be the most eccentric, to be on top of it. But when we get there, we realise that we are all the same. All alone. Living by each other’s misery, trying to impress people to whom we are invisible. People that, like us, have lost their way.
So how do we know if we’re going in the wrong or the right direction? How do we know what we are becoming?
Well first, you are never in the wrong direction. Only distracted. Second, if you’re distracted for long enough, life will slap you in the face when you least expect and bring you back on track. So relax. Your lover might cheat on you, your idol might die, and your eggs might burn – but you’re not bored enough to predict it…
So stop and think about your day. About everyone you love, everyone you hate and everything you were today. When you’re done with this, move forward. Get rid of who your memory tells you you are. Allow yourself to wake up tomorrow and be who you want to be.
Just be bored. Be boring. And bore the fuck out of everyone who tries to mess with you.
How distant can we be from our physical existence, until we realize we are too far to come back?
Humans stay here. Humans eat, bathe, pluck their eyebrows, feed the cat, clean the house, laugh, gossip, enjoy the sunset, make people angry in traffic, breathe.
Extraordinary humans go there. They think ahead, predict, envision. They are conscious of change. They understand the game. And they want to leave the world a happier place than when they arrived. But extraordinary humans can only start somewhere: here.
Only the right conditions can create these extraordinary humans. And that poses a problem. The system is not giving us the conditions we need to grow extraordinarily. And that can be as simple as having time to enjoy breakfast.
Why do we get jealous when someone goes on holiday? Falls in love? Creates a successful company? Why can’t we all have a dream job, fall in love and feel on vacations everyday? Shouldn’t we create a dream reality, rather than trying to escape from it?
The modern human is lost in transaction between the here and there. And that’s no place to be. We work for there and don’t have time to be here. We spend our time desiring, thinking, planning and predicting an unhealthy future inside our boring, confined boxes. We create unhealthy lifestyles. Unhealthy desires. Lives that make us sick. And it doesn’t have to be that way.
Most of us can be trained to be extraordinary. To enjoy the now. To be confident. To be loved. To be awesome. But we need conditions for that. We need truth. Not illusions that please our senses. Because if there is one thing you cannot do, society, is fool our soul.
So the only solution is to stay. To stay in an awesome reality. To stay “here”. Not dreaming about tomorrow, or remembering about yesterday. Simply enjoying life, right now. The most here that we can possibly be, because here can only happen now. And so does happiness.