Miss Kahlo

“I often have more sympathy for carpenters, shoemakers, etc., than for the whole flock of stupid so-called civilized talkers they call cultivated people.” – Frida Kahlo

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– Frida Kahlo in the Blue House, Anonymous, 1930

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yin yanging the shit out of this unbalanced world.

Throughout my life I have been using the term common sense as a measurement to consider why something is right or wrong. Take McDonald’s; common sense would be to tax them more heavily for selling food that is both addictive and harmful to people. Or the 9 -to-5 life. Common sense would be to allow people to be outdoors throughout the day. Instead, most of us stare at a screen 8 hours straight, which disassociates us from life itself, eventually making us feel disconnected and depressed.

But most people have a problem understanding common sense, and to my simply enquiry most bluntly reply, “well, what’s common sense for you might not be for someone else. McDonald’s doesn’t make you buy their shitty burgers – you only get them if you want to; and companies pay you to sit there for 8 hours. You should be happy.”

Well but I’m not. And we, as people, shouldn’t feel guilty for feeling shitty. That’s just what it is, and it just means something’s not right. That’s called common sense.

This makes me conclude that common sense is a truth that benefits everyone. People’s real interest is to be healthy and happy, while companies’ real interest is in making profit. I’m sure we can please both sides of the equation by yin yanging the shit out of this unbalanced world. A truth where all grounds can thrive equally and indistinguishably. A truth that pushes greed and fear aside so we can realise that what we all have in common is the exactly the same. That’s common sense.

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Only you know what’s best for you

Don’t trust anyone to know what’s best for you. No doctors, parents or politics can end your pain. Not because they don’t want to, but simply because they don’t know you – the real person hiding beneath all they know...

If you want to make things right, start listening to your true self – to what you like, what you don’t like, to what feels right. It’s quite unreal that you would live inside somebody and some mind that you don’t know at all.

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There’s only one way to live.

Are you living life or are you faking it?

Most people lose themselves in the idea of what they want. I see this happening in all areas of life, such as advertising, religion, music… It’s everywhere. Why? Because our mind is lazy, and would rather settle for a fake expression of what is, rather than putting effort into creating original stuff. An everyday example:

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On the left we see Miley Cyrus lost in the idea of what a model looks like, and on the right we see a model. Both of them have great cheek bones, but one of them is fake. I think you can tell which one is who.

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Selfies can seem quite a small example, but it’s exactly this mindset that also messes with religion. How many people get lost in the idea of God? In the example above, we see religion as an excuse to war (left) and a true expression of spirituality (right). My take is that if you understand God with your mind you haven’t found God at all. Struggle is opposite to spirituality.

So, stay true. You might trick a fool’s mind, but you won’t trick your soul – the only one you should be worried about pleasing. Faking is like taking a shortcut to a dead end. And let’s face it, why spend your time struggling to fake anything at all?

If you want to know if what you’re doing is true, and not fake, ask yourself one question: ‘Why?’. If there is no obvious answer to this, you’re faking it.

Should I stay or should I go

I’m reading about Osho, a 20th century master of knowledge. He’s talking about the power of awareness by doing things slow and consciously.

He clearly isn’t a bus driver in London.

I get was he is saying but the world doesn’t work like that. If he were a bus driver in London Osho wouldn’t be Osho. He’d just be someone aspiring to be like Osho.

That’s who I am right now. Except for the driver part. If I follow Osho’s advice to be 100% conscious, I can’t be doing what I’m doing. I’ll have change my lifestyle. No drugs, no hats, no triple chocolate cookies. Focusing on what’s needed, working towards a society that benefits all. But how can I change the world by setting myself apart from it?

By leaving an unconscious society to start a conscious lifestyle, I’ll also leave behind the people that need Osho’s advice the most. My colleagues, my friends, a stranger in the street, they can all learn something using me as the bridge. But if I leave, they’ll have one less chance of seeing beyond their own island.

That’s how I compare 3 states of being found in everyone that surrounds us: Rivers, Margins and the Bridges.

The River represent those who go with the flow. Free and fresh. lose and unpredictable. I’ve met a few people like this in my life, and I always admired them for not giving a fuck. They might wake up one day and regret a life of nothing, but then again, wouldn’t it be good if we could all strip from our mental polish and enjoy every single day for the first time?

The Margin represents those who work for themselves, only communicating with people that live by the same values and ideas. They get things going, and build essential structures that help our society thrive through their eyes. Undisturbed, they work amazingly well. The downside of Margins is that they get distressed when questioned. A designated Margin can’t physically communicate with another Margin because they’re too far apart from each other. Religion, Politics, and well… Parents, are examples of this.

The Bridge. A man made structure that solves a man made problem – Communication. Unlike Margins, Bridge people adapt. Their ideas don’t proliferate far as the Margins’ do, but the Margins’ ideas will eventually come to an end without bridges. It’s the yin & yang of human evolution. Bridges see the potential in a correlated world by connecting  ideas, cultures, politics, beliefs – they make margins understand each other. They go outside their bubble of comfort to make the world go further. Those are the cases of Ghandi, Martin Luther King and that random person that helped you carry that heavy luggage on the tube. Creators of frequencies that allow us to let go and see through what really matters – beyond our differences. Beyond our egos.

I find Bridge people the most appealing. But I don’t think I’m one yet. First, I must create solid grounds for others to trust they can find their way through me. Sounds very philosophical, but that’s just how bridges are made.

 

 

 

Happiness Can Only Happen Here.

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How distant can we be from our physical existence, until we realize we are too far to come back?

Humans stay here. Humans eat, bathe, pluck their eyebrows, feed the cat, clean the house, laugh, gossip, enjoy the sunset, make people angry in traffic, breathe.

Extraordinary humans go there. They think ahead, predict, envision. They are conscious of change. They understand the game. And they want to leave the world a happier place than when they arrived. But extraordinary humans can only start somewhere: here.

Only the right conditions can create these extraordinary humans. And that poses a problem. The system is not giving us the conditions we need to grow extraordinarily. And that can be as simple as having time to enjoy breakfast.

Why do we get jealous when someone goes on holiday? Falls in love? Creates a successful company? Why can’t we all have a dream job, fall in love and feel on vacations everyday? Shouldn’t we create a dream reality, rather than trying to escape from it?

The modern human is lost in transaction between the here and there. And that’s no place to be. We work for there and don’t have time to be here. We spend our time desiring, thinking, planning and predicting an unhealthy future inside our boring, confined boxes. We create unhealthy lifestyles. Unhealthy desires. Lives that make us sick. And it doesn’t have to be that way.

Most of us can be trained to be extraordinary. To enjoy the now. To be confident. To be loved. To be awesome. But we need conditions for that. We need truth. Not illusions that please our senses. Because if there is one thing you cannot do, society, is fool our soul.

So the only solution is to stay. To stay in an awesome reality. To stay “here”. Not dreaming about tomorrow, or remembering about yesterday. Simply enjoying life, right now. The most here that we can possibly be, because here can only happen now. And so does happiness.